Controlling Mother in law

Dont get me wrong I love my mother in law. She treats me so well and we get along great, but... shes so controlling over my pregnancy. This is mine and my husbands second baby together. We lost our son in July and I am currently 15 weeks pregnant. She was pretty controlling in our first pregnancy but this time it's a whole different story. Shes acting like I'm carrying her child. She said to me that if anything is wrong with this baby I need to terminate because she doesnt want to go through meeting and losing another grandchild. She told me who I need to invite to my baby shower and who I need to call when I'm in labor. She keeps saying that I cant let my baby sleep in a crib. Shes trying to control who is the room while I deliver and who gets to be there after the baby is born. I told her I dont want anyone kissing my child until they are atleast a year old and she said she will kiss them whenever she pleases. She told my husband and I that if we have a girl her middle name has to be fern. And every boys name we pick she tells us "that wont be my grandsons name" She got mad at me because I was talking to my best friend about the baby and we were going to plan my baby shower together. She literally threw a fit and made me feel awful. The worst part is my husband does nothing about it. My mom was extremely controlling in the beginning of my first pregnancy and I talked to her about it and she immediately stopped and has done anything of the sorts this time. Im so frustrated and annoyed by this all. I can understand her not wanting to lose another grandchild because I sure as hell do not want to lose another child but this is MY baby and I should have the last say.

Does anyone have any advice on how to handle this? I cant take much more.