I need to know...

(Posting anonymous because I’m still upset with the whole situation)

How would you lady’s husbands have reacted to this situation:

The insurance company had called. I missed the call and was calling them back. Our 18 month old was screaming and I couldn’t hear anything. My husband starts yelling at her trying to get her to hush then jokingly says that woman’s gonna end up calling DHS on me.

Well I grab my daughter by the hand and we walk to her room. She has a baby gate in her door way so she stays in there. My phones in one hand, so with the other I pick her up by her arm. She jerks and I sit her down and walk away. She starts screaming, but that’s nothing unusual when we put her in her room with the gate up. My husbands grandmother walks in and my husband tells her I’m on the phone with insurance and I couldn’t hear so we put her in her room. She goes in there and our daughter is still screaming. My husband goes and yells more telling her that’s enough. He’s gonna give her a reason to cry. Blah. Blah. Then comes in here and tells me her arm is hurt. She’s holding it and that’s why she’s not screaming. I get off the phone, go get her, and she won’t move it and it’s bruised at the elbow. Great. I tell them I’m taking her to the hospital. He makes comments and let’s me know his opinion for sure.

Fast forward, it’s not broke. Radius slightly dislocated and they popped it back in place. We come back home. My MIL comes in the door and asks what happened. I tell her and my husband says “it’s always someone else’s fault.” I walked over there and told him to lose his attitude and shut his mouth. He basically tells me we’re gonna talk and I’ll see an attitude, until then leave him alone.

So my question is.. What should I say to him? I’m already emotional enough. I hurt by baby girl and I never would have hurt her in a million years. I didn’t mean to do it.

And what would your SO have said and or done?

😭😭

My main concern is not making my husband better.

I have admitted multiple times that I messed up. I’ve squalled since it happened.. Told him I was sorry and I admitted my faults and told him he could have taken her elsewhere. But “she wasn’t bothering him” and I “didn’t specifically ask him to do anything with her” so he didn’t worry about it.

I didn’t intentionally hurt my little girl. I wouldn’t hurt her for anything in this world. I was trying to talk to insurance about our newborn, keep the newborn quiet because he was crying, keep her quiet, listening to my husband yell, I couldn’t hear anything, and was just trying to hurry up and get her in her room. No, I shouldn’t have picked her up by her arm. Honestly, I wasn’t thinking at the time that what I was doing would hurt her or I wouldn’t have done it. It was an honest mistake that I’ll never forget and definitely won’t do again.

Also, I’m not necessarily more worried about my husband, there are just times he is unpredictable. So I wasn’t sure if this was a normal reaction, if i should talk to him, leave it be, and what to do in general. He was making it worse and i wanted that part to stop..... For instance this small thing. Ive been getting a lot of spam calls, insurance calls, my news notifications come through and my family messages me. He was upset because of how much my phone was going off, so I put it on silent and told him who it was. Then today he’s like well if you weren’t so secretive and keeping your phone on silent, you wouldn’t have missed the call and we wouldn’t be in this predicament. Sometimes he’s the most loving caring man I know. Other times, he makes me feel like the shittiest person in the world. 💔