TTC 2nd baby - but sort of scared to be pregnant again?

Question

Our daughter is almost two and we’ve been trying for just over a year to get pregnant. I’ve had two miscarriages during this time and after each MC I find myself ever so slightly relieved and I feel awful about it. 
We really want our kiddo to have a sibling. I’ve always thought it was important to have that relationship in your life. My husband is an only child and he admits he was spoiled and entitled...we don’t want that for her. Plus it’s always nice to have someone to lean on no matter what! (I love my sister haha)
Anyway, has anyone found themselves conflicted about a second child due to fear of complications or death in child birth? Bringing a child into this world is one of the most dangerous things we women do - and we do it willingly (usually - that’s another topic)! 
I’d feel selfish to not continue trying due to my own fears.
(Please no “it’s just gods plan” comments - although I respect your right to your beliefs
, I’m not religious.)

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I’m in a similar situation. My husband and I have been TTC since the new year (so very new) baby #2, our daughter is 2 in Feb so the time felt right. I’ve always been the one wanting a sibling for her but recently I’m feeling reluctant to give up my freedom, body, and career (sort of) to have another. Is there ever a right time? I’m so conflicted!

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My son is 20 months and we are going to start trying but yeah, definitely conflicted. He's busy and I am not sure how to handle two! So part of me just wants to get pregnant quick but the other part is fine if it takes a while (but not too long that I get worried). Augh, it's such a mind game!

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I think it’s very important for you to feel ready to have another baby. That being mentally and physically ready. I’m TTC #2 aswell and I have to say there have been a couple of times when I’ve been late (af) where I’ve thought ( am I doing the right thing? Do I really want this) 
However each month has passed I’m now on month 14 of TTC, 1 chemical pregnancy, I’m currently 7dpo. I’m scared to test because I don’t think I can cope with another bfn 😢. 
My daughter is 7 and I have the same worries that I don’t want her spoiled etc and I know now that I’m definitely 100% ready to have another baby but it did take me a while to get used to the idea, and now I do get extremely upset with my BFN every month I’m beginning to think I’ll never get pregnant again! 
If your feeling not ready maybe talk with your husband? Maybe have a small break from ‘trying’ for a while? A couple of months off the stress of it all ( I know that’s v v easy for someone else to say. I’m here if you’d like to talk 👍🏻💕 x

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You know I used to think that way too but when it comes down to it if you just have one and that’s all you want just have one just focus and try not to spoil the child and really focus on how you raise him or her rather than having another child for their sake.  It’s definitely a personal decision but if it’s the only reason you want a second child then I would think twice.

TTC 2nd baby - but sort of scared to be pregnant again?

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