Hey Ladies 👋🏽

Some of you are probably wondering why this type of topic is in the group. Well, the main reason is I believe with my husband being in freshly new in the navy things with us have been changing 😭 I’ll let you through my life story because I seriously need other opinions.

👉🏽 The Past... My husband and I have been married since feb 2018 but together since junior year of high school, the sex was amazing. We had a baby 3 years later after graduating from high school and my sexual desire became low, I believe from breastfeeding... My husband adapted to it and understood we could no longer have sex every other day or so. 2 years went by and we still were on the same page until the day he left for A school.

👉🏽 Present.... My husband wants to sext all day while he’s in another state, I feel like he’s not interested in just a regular conversation like he can’t hold a conversation without a sexual comment. I’m starting to become frustrated because I’m getting tired of acting like I’m enjoying it. I try to talk about so many different things, he can engage for a little bit before he becomes bored and don’t say anything at all. Just recently we tried spice it up by having sex over FaceTime I’ve never masturbated before (Sorry if tmi) but he knows I’ll do anything to make sure he’s happy. I’ve done it about 4 times so far but every time we talk he asks “Can I see you tonight” and every time he asks I feel down, lazy, sad, irritated. This last time I told him no because our son was still up pass 10pm and when he goes to sleep I was going too since we had a long day. Well, we didn’t talk for a few days because he was upset. When we finally decided to talk again, a few text messages were exchanged before he asked “Can I see you tonight lol” I said yeah I’ll love to talk to you. His response was “Not that type of see of you, you know what I mean” Ladies this is every week at least 3 days out the week he wants something sexual done. Today, I told him how I feel and his response was “I didn’t think it was so hard to please your Husband after all I do for you by paying every bill and making sure you don’t have to work while I do all the hard work, you make being in the navy no easier” 😩

Now I’m just lost for words I feel like I’m trying my best but not enough to him. I never been the one to have low self esteem. I now have high anxiety and depression to the point my doctor diagnosed me last week and recommended me to see a therapist.

Question: Is your spouse sexual desire more demanding than before while he’s gone?