The love of my life (fiancé) struggles quite a bit to engage with the other love of my life (our 1.5 yr old son). I see two individuals that adore each other but have trouble bonding with one another.

My fiancé has grown so much mentally since he became a father and since we found out he has autism (found out almost a year ago). But struggles when it comes to our first born. Unless I’m there giving him direction, which I don’t mind most of the time but sometimes I would like to have an hour or few to myself for me time/errands/cleaning/cooking.

One huge factor that plays into our situation is that I’m a STAHM and my fiancé works 6-6 so that is a big chunk of the weekdays. On top of that, I’m pregnant with our second boy. So our first is pretty attached to me.

I guess I would just like some advice or tips to help my fiancé spend time with our extremely active toddler and to help my very attached toddler know that being away from me is okay. I’m ready to put in all the work I can to make this family function because they are my world and I know my fiancé feels the same way.

Right now I’m sitting in our bathroom typing this out while I’ve heard my son (all the way from his room) literally bawl while saying mommy for the past 15 min.

**I know this is part of being a parent and that toddlers are their own little people and people on the spectrum think and process everything different than neurotypicals do. I just want a little bit of help lol