Buy things that are gender neutral :) shop a little to satisfy your need and want to buy something. I did, my mom did, my dad did and my in laws did haha but grandma even just bought something. I'm 12 weeks 1 day now, but I bought something around 6 weeks (like pacifiers and a onesie). I just bought a changing table the other day because I got it for $12 soo I could pass on that one. Do what makes you happy. Just keep the receipts