We’re both smokers (me now being former) and when I found out I was pregnant I immediately downloaded a quit smoking app to keep me focused and on track and got rid of the cigarettes I had left and effectively said “I am quitting smoking”, husband said he was going to quit too.

Well tell me why when we stopped at quick check last night coming home this MF-er I can see through the window buys a pack and when I ask him about it he basically brushes me off with “yes I did” and then texted me (because his buddy was over) “not to get huffy” and that that was the last pack he’d buy? Cue the silent treatment, I go to bed and since I can’t sleep anyway I craft my speech in my head and learn he doesn’t come into our room to sleep but slept in the guest room (citing it was because he had to get up at 4am to work but he just logs in from his phone and goes back to sleep 🙄)

So anyway, this morning I make us coffee and telling him that I have my little speech about this and then I’m leaving it alone but I told him how disappointed and upset I was that he couldn’t even respond to me when I told him 2x that I was quitting, he had gotten huffy with me on Friday when I asked if he was quitting and he said yes and where the patches are (I’m MOT using them) and that through this whole journey I will need his support on a lot of different things but smoking being the biggest one. I even APOLOGIZED saying that I was sorry if I made it look easier than it was but it’s not fair to me for him to brush me off like that. He also called me selfish legit 3 days before I got the BFP because I said I wanted a glass of wine because “what if I could be pregnant” (LOL) so I flipped that back on him, to which he said “I know I’m the one being selfish, I’m sorry I will quit”. I Then said to him “you’re trusting me to not smoke or drink when I’m with my friends but now how can I trust you?” And he just said “I know, I promise I will quit smoking”

Am I being too harsh here? Or have my hormones got me wacky? We had discussed prior to getting pregnant that he would quit too to make it easier on me which is why I reacted how I did. I’m very early, 5 weeks, but don’t want to take chances.