Feeling lonely

I am a FTM and currently stay at home mom since we can’t get my LO to take a bottle. I am with my baby all day and I’m the one who wakes up with her in the night even on the weekends and when my husband finally gets home from work and he eats his dinner I ask him to hold her so I can either shower or eat my dinner and do dishes but the entire time I try to do anything for myself I just hear my baby screaming. I go to see what’s wrong and he’s holding her but he’s playing a game on his phone and isn’t paying attention to her. Now she’s 4 months and at this age I personally am against crying it out especially since she’s had a lot of problems due to IUGR but that’s all he talks about! That I am spoiling her by always holding her and never letting her cry. He only has a problem when I ask him to watch her so I can do something for myself. He lets her cry all so he can play a game on his phone! I look at it as you’ve been at work all day don’t you want to see, talk, and spend time with your daughter before you go to bed? I know that’s what I would want to do. But I can’t say anything to him because then all I hear is “who pays your bills so you can stay home and do nothing all day.” I honestly don’t know what to do or how I feel. I grew up with a single mom and I’ve always said/wanted my kids to have both parents in their life so I want to make this work but I can’t stand him! He thinks I do nothing and yet he will never help me on his days off or once he gets home and he seems to think he does everything. It’s always a fight if I say anything so now I just keep my mouth shut. It makes me sad when someone asks if she rolls over yet and he says no and I have to say she’s been rolling over for almost a week. He knows nothing about our daughter and even when I tell him things he apparently doesn’t listen. I’ve told him I’ve sent pictures and videos he just doesn’t care enough to listen to what I have to say. I feel like I am in this alone. All that’s important to him right now is his friends, video games and his phone. They all come before me and our baby.