A word of encouragement❤️

Hey there, girls!❤️ this is just a bit of encouragement for those of you who have decided to save sex for marriage...

I know it can feel like you’re all alone in this endeavor, because that’s certainly how I felt.

When my boyfriend and I started dating in January of 2014, we went into our relationship with the determination to hold off on sex until we were married. We were only 17 at the time, but we knew that each of us had the goal of dating to marry.

Fast forward to July of 2016. Ryan proposed to me while we were in Colorado with his family❤️ by this time I was 19, he was 20, and we didn’t have ANY friends that had followed through with their desire to save sex for marriage.

We spent the next 2 1/4 years engaged. Ryan graduated from college and I moved closer to my graduation date of December 2018. We watched all of our friends get engaged and married. And in the midst of this, we noticed something pretty discouraging occurring. Everyone around us just assumed that we were having sex, despite our insistence that we were remaining abstinent.

We could have let this deter us from accomplishing our goal, but we chose to look at the matter in another manner. We could have said, “We might as well since everyone thinks we’re doing it anyway,” but I found a way of thinking that was encouraging. You might not be able to control people’s thoughts and opinions of you, but you CAN control if they’re right or not.

Ryan and I got married on October 20, 2018. The first boy I dated was the first boy I kissed. The first boy I kissed was the man I married. And the man I married was the man I lost my virginity to...ON OUR WEDDING NIGHT. And I think it’s pretty dang cool that he can say the same about me.

So there ya go, girls. My husband and I waited, and I am so, so glad we did. Know that I will ALWAYS be over here rooting for you because you CAN do it.

***NOTE: I’m not trying to shame anyone who didn’t choose to wait, just trying to offer some encouragement to any girls out there who might be feeling discouraged like I was