Just want a little outside advice... Or at least someone's thoughts

I don't know if I'm going to make any life changing decisions based on whatever feedback I get. I just want to see what impartial strangers think.

Long story short, I've always been a gal with low self esteem. Got myself into an emotionally/psychologically abusive marriage. 2 years in, pregnant and forced to put the baby up for adoption. 2 years later, he kicks me out.

Spent nearly a decade alone. Ended up on POF, found a nice guy, ended up moving in together.

I take care of most of the domestic stuff. I cook, do dishes, do the laundry. All after working almost a (sometimes) 10 hour day.

He comes home, puts his feet up and drinks. No responsibility.

I don't care. What gets me is the guilt trips... If he loads the dishwasher, or sweeps, he wants praise. And I get made to feel like I need to put in more effort around the house.

It's always little digs at me. Over anything... I make dinner and get "Great. Not my favourite, but it's okay. There's always tomorrow. " or "Well, smells like you burned the hell out of it."

He'll offer to pick me up from work, then bitch about how it's out of his way, or that he could've been home relaxing already.

He complains about not getting physical, but every night it's like he's groaning about being tired, or sore, or upset and needs to unwind.

It's worse now, because I'm pregnant. He's taken so many tasks off the table because they're "too physically demanding", then makes a big deal about how he does all this stuff.

When he's drunk (which is almost daily), it's worse. He calls me names, and last weekend he barricaded me in the basement with furniture, nearly pushed me down the stairs.

He's great when he's in a good mood and sober. He's sweet and caring and very loving. I just can't seem to figure out what makes him happy so he'll get off my back.