Would you allow your in-laws to hold your newborn if they’ve had a drink?
I’ve not once spent a night with them where they haven’t cracked open a bottle of wine/beer. It is their thing. They’re not alcoholics, but probably live along the national daily limit or exceed it on certain days of the week, they go overboard when we visit. My husband isn’t used to it and is either sick or feels sick throughout the night on almost every time we’ve been to see them in the last few years. In the 7 years I’ve known them I’ve never joined in their drinking sessions and I tend to bring my own soft drink - they’ve passed comments here and there over the years and made me feel ostracised at times because I’m not like them.
It never bothered me - we never visited often enough for it to be a real issue! But now we are expecting our first baby and I’m cringing over how I’m going to react to them holding our daughter if they’ve had a drink, which is going to happen.... they’ve never done anything ridiculous whilst drinking (they’re in their 60s), it’s just feel uncomfortable of the thought of allowing anyone to hold me newborn baby if they’ve had a drink... should I be monitoring how much they drink?
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