Hey ladies,

So I had a miscarriage about a week ago, it was the first pregnancy after 6 years of trying. I was sad about it and still am, I’ve stopped bleeding now, and all I want to do is have sex with my husband. Really really bad. I was actually dying the other night when he started kissing me all over and I just wanted him so badly.

I haven’t seen the doctors yet for a check up. I’m just scared that something could happen since they want to check if everything has come out on its own or I might need a D&C. My appointment is in 2 days. Should I wait to get the clearance from my doctor or should I just give in and do it.

I was wondering if any of you ladies have been through a miscarriage and felt the same way? I think sex for me is like a way to get over being so sad and stressed out, and we haven’t been longer than a week, max, and that’s a long time for us. Usually when I get my period it’s finished after 5 days so that’s the longest we go without it.

Any advice ?

Literally dying

P.s: sorry I can’t respond to comments anonymously, thank you for the advice.. that really helps..

can I also ask, would it be ok for him to use his fingers? Nothing inside just on the top? Would it still cause problems?

Update:

Thank you ladies who commented. I had my checkup today and the doctor said it looks like my body has gotten rid of everything it’s self, my HCG levels on the day of the miscarriage was 2274. I took a blood test today and it went down to 6 in 1 week and 4 days... so it’s completely gone.. when I first found out I was pregnant (which was literally 4 weeks ago) my HCG levels were 5301. I also did a home pregnancy test and the lines showed up so fast! It was amazing..

The doctor said it’s fine for me to resume intercourse, I just have to use protection for a couple of months to let my body heal...

I’m not sad I feel so much contentment that God has a greater plan.. I’m not giving up and hopefully I can update you guys in a couple of months that I’m pregnant again or down the track..

It has been an emotional roller coaster, but I can say now Praise be to God, because without Him I would be in a very low depressing state, instead I can laugh, be happy and know that He will take care of me..