Today was the first time he told me he was done. He said he wasn't feeling happy in our relationship. Then when I apologized for making him feel a certain way he accepts it and apologizes for making me cry and tells me he loves me and how blessed he is to have me. Although we "made up" I can't get the horrible mocking and feelings of stupidity out of my mind and heart. He had mocked me during the fight and asked, "How does it feel huh? How does it feel?" I can't the tone of his voice when he said that out of my head.

In acknowledgement, the argument started from something very shallow. I sent him a couple pictures of men's fashion saying I thought he would look really good in that style. I know we've had conversations about his clothes before but whenever I suggested him to try on something at the mall or what not, he would always refuse, saying he had enough clothes and that he didn't care about how he looked. I never expect him to buy anything from trying something on. It just always hurt to be flat out rejected. I told him that I wear things for him knowing that he likes it and from me wanting to put in the extra effort for him. But it just feels so one-sided. Essentially our argument became a fight over him not even trying once or having an open mind and him saying that he always feels pressured and that I couldn't understand that no meant no. He told me it was my problem and not his. But isn't a relationship about compromise? Is it really that bad that I kept asking him to try something new because I want him to have nicer looking clothes? While the topic of clothes is stupid, I get frustrated in general when he tells me something is my problem or when he's so quick to say no. What am I supposed to do then?

Then towards the end of the call he tells me, "You know what, I'll throw you a bone. If you buy clothes for me that you like, I'll consider wearing them okay?" I still have super mixed feelings about this. Tossing me a bone...what?

I just feel like this has become the routine in any argument we have. Somehow it always ends up feeling like it's my fault. Was I irrational for thinking and feeling such a way?

He's very strongly opinionated as a person and I tend to be much more soft and empathetic towards others. Whenever I try to express my opinions it seems like he is so quick to tell his own opinions (which for the most part, conflict mine) and then the conversation very much ends up like a debate. He says he hears me but I don't feel like he doesn't genuinely listen nor is curious of how I think or feel. I think in essence, I feel like my feelings are never validated.

I'm so confused. I know I haven't been great in some moments of our relationship. But this sense of pressure he's accumulated is from moments like when he told me last year that he forgot about Valentine's Day and me getting super upset (it was my first Vday with somebody so I was so excited to exchange gifts with one another). When I told him how much it would mean to me if he sent me a letter or a gift and him saying he's tried it before in the past and doesn't like doing it. When he forgot our anniversary I didn't make it a big deal since I knew he was stressed looking for a job at that time. It's just...so hard for me to feel like he cares.