Emotional roller coaster

Recently I had a miscarriage. My husband was away training when I found out. So for awhile I was on my own trying to find a way to tell him and how he was going to handle it etc. Trying to figure out how I was going to. Since hes been back hes been very supportive and very helpful and understanding but at the same time it's like hes trying to act like it never happened. Or hes just acting like it doesn't bother him at all... he never wants to really talk about it. I understand people cope in different ways. Its completely okay and I'm in no way mad or upset with him for that. I'm just worried. We are still doing well... just at times one of us snaps and breaks down. Or it feels like theres an elephant in the room if you know what I mean. I'm trying to deal with it the best i can. I really am. So is he. Does anyone know what ways to cope with this together and work through it together? Or a way to bring it up without making things worse etc? I'm just kinda lost on how to help him and us.