When to leave

Ka

Kathryn

How do you know if you need to leave or just try harder in the relationship? My husband and I have been together for 4 years in May and here recently things just haven’t been the same. We fight all the time about the stupidest things. If he has a bad day or someone does something to make him mad he takes it out on me by starting a fight. He doesn’t turn me on anymore and threatens me with divorce when we fight. I use to cry when he would say he wants me to leave. I don’t anymore because it just doesn’t hurt as bad. Do I need to try harder to make our marriage work or do I just need to leave?

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M

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Sounds like your unhappy and if he threatens you with divorce then call his bluff and leave. Maybe a trial separation will do you good and bring you guys back together. Or it’ll make you realize how happy you are without him. Either way you’ll get an answer. Good luck. 💕

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I had something similar to this happen to me last fall... my husband and I weren’t getting along at all over stupid stuff and he would always threaten divorce in the fight and I always cried and said nooo and that sort of thing until one day I was like nope not gonna care and told him okay so our Baby and I went and stayed with my mom. He got mad and packed his crap and started moving out and then realized I wasn’t coming for him and changed his mind and he moved back in. (I still stayed at my moms house at this point) he begged me to come home and things would changed and set up marriage counseling for us and we started going to that all while still being separated and things got a lot better!! I finally moved back in and we continued to go to counseling. It has helped us tremendously. We ended up living separately for a month. Maybe call his bluff? Try counseling? All depends on if you want it to work. I truly wanted my babies to have a together family so I was willing to try. crazy enough I found out I was pregnant again when we separated so I really wanted to try but in the end if things didn’t get better I wasn’t going to stay. Not worth it. I hope things get better for you guys whether it’s together or not as long as you are happy- that’s what matters.

de

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I’m not sure what you are clinging onto he’s threatening to leave so he’s unhappy too, next time he says it let him leave.