Where to begin. By choice I have no contact at all with in-laws. My partner calls to them with our daughter for a visit once a month by his choice. I decided nearly two years ago I had enough. I’m happy in my choice but sometimes I feel bad that my partner is in this situation. He completely understands and agrees that their behavior is weird I shouldn’t of had to put up with it. Am I justified in finding it wrong for a MIL to walk in your door and go room to room eyeing up everything and going in your bedroom opening up wardrobes. When you offer a coffee for her to randomly get up and walk around the house..into bedrooms upstairs..while drinking it. To put out a plate of cakes and biscuits yet she still feels the need to go into the kitchen and route through the cupboards. I’m a stay at home mother and my husband works. We are a very traditional family. I felt like I was being disrespected in my own home because her son pays the bills and I do not. She had said to her son before that she shouldn’t feel like a guest in her sons home..it should feel like a second home. Another issue she had was that she felt like she could come over whenever she wanted and I had asked that before anyone called could they ring in advance. I’m a very house proud person and I like for it to look nice for people coming over and I also like to have nice things to offer people with a coffee. I thot that was reasonable. She thot I was being ridiculous. I would describe this lady as a bit of a hippy who doesn’t keep a house as I do..which is perfectly ok to me. Everyone is different. I was just looking for mutual respect. But felt like I was getting none even though for 8 years I gave a lot of respect to her.