So, Ive had 3 miscarriages. One before my son and two after.

One in 2017 and the other this past October. I’ve been deeply affected especially after this last miscarriage. I found out I was pregnant very early and was so happy. I felt like it was perfect timing and I couldn’t keep the secret. I told family and friends immediately. I don’t know why but I felt in my heart that I was having a little girl💕 so my husband and I picked out her name at only 6 weeks! We kept referring to the baby as “Bebe Luna”, even my 3 year old son. So basically everyone knew the name I Had chosen. Sadly at 12

Weeks I lost her💔 even though I had gone through this twice before, this time I was deeply affected. I guess because I got so attached...I truly hoped for a healthy pregnancy . I never even thought that this would happen to me again. But it did. Well, fast forward 3 months later, my sister gives the announcement that SHE is pregnant!!! I was so happy for her because I knew she was ttc for a while so I was so excited for her....until 2 weeks ago that my mom told me that my sister told her

She was naming her baby Luna if

It was a girl (she’s finding out the gender in 2 weeks)...my mom told she told my sister she shouldn’t do that because that was the name I had chosen but my sister claims she didn’t know. Her words “oh I didn’t know, but That’s the name I like and that’s the one im using” too bad basically. I’m

Torn. I HAVENT EVEN DECIDED IF I WAMT TO USE THAT NAME YET. Not even me because I’m Still affected....my mom tells me to talk to her but I haven’t because I know how she is and I don’t want to argue with her . I know she’s going to tell me I’m selfish or argue that “she didn’t know that was the name I picked out” but I know damn well she knew. Everyone knew! But even if she didn’t know, should she still use that name? Am I being selfish? Idk girls what do y’all think! How should I talk to her!? I know it’s just a name and there are plenty of girls with that name but I can’t sit here and pretend like it doesn’t bother me because me in her place I would never even consider doing that until consulting her because for me it would only be a name but I don’t know how she’ll feel about it . That name is more than just a name for me And I’m not prepared to use it

UPDATE: thank you all for your messages, I’m glad I’m not alone and I have other women that understand my pain. My sister already knows the gender of her baby and it is indeed a girl. She announced at her gender reveal that she’s naming her “Luna” they even spelled it out with those magnet letter on a her fridge door. I decided not to tell her how I feel until a day after. It went really bad. I almost regret telling her. I asked her if she could please reconsider since I’m very attached to that name still and it’s the only thing I have left for myself after my lost; I would like to hold on to that. She basically says she’s not changing the name, that’s the name she likes and that she already tried to understand me but she doesn’t.....I’ve been ttc after my loss , 7 months now and I’m happy to announce IM PREGNANT. I found out yesterday🌈 I’m so happy, but hurt because I can’t find it in my heart to tell my sister the news because I’m still hurting from her decision but more than anything the way she handled the situation. Any advice?