Have you ever politely asked someone to stop talking about their pregnancy? Or to maybe cut back on the amount of baby pics/videos/ FaceTime sent to them?

One SIL (husbands brothers’ wife) is 12 weeks pregnant. Doesn’t seem to matter where we are or what we are doing, her pregnancy is all she talks about. Or rather, how difficult it is so far. I’ve distanced myself some by not reaching out to her in texts or hanging out as much, but since the whole family is close and always doing things together we still see each other a lot. For example, last night DH and I went to a rodeo and he invited his brother, dad and some friends. The event lasts 4hrs. I ended up being seated beside the SIL and that’s all I heard about for 4hrs; how she needs a pregnancy pillow, she hasn’t been able to cook since she got her positive (bc it makes her sick), how she’s constantly grumpy and exhausted, how sick she always is, her clothes already getting tight... I was polite the whole time but was in an awful mood by the time we left. She’s also fully aware we have been TTC for 2 1/2 years and currently struggling with treatments not working.

I really am happy for her and babies really are an exciting thing but it’s so, freaking, hard. I know my own struggles are making me bitter so that’s why I haven’t said anything but the longer we go with treatments not working, the harder it is for me to listen to her complain about her pregnancy.

My other SIL (husbands sister) FaceTimes me just to show me her baby eating or just so I can see him. She lives 5mins from us. I see them several times a week already at family events. I’ve stopped answering her calls but she calls her sister who lives with us, and the sister always comes over to me so I can see too. I just says hi, and then continue with what I was doing or discreetly leave the room. She is also aware we are struggling; she’s actually the first person I told bc she kept asking me.

I don’t really want to do it, but I’m just wondering if anyone has ever politely asked someone to not talk to them as much about stuff like that, or to cut back on the amount of baby stuff sent to them? Again I KNOW it’s just my own issues causing me to feel bitter like this, and I really truly am happy for them, but it really is hard for me.