Warning : there’s a lot of backstory lmao

So I’ve met my boyfriends dad twice but they are extremely close. Every time I’ve met him I’ve been extremely open and kind and non judgmental. I found out my boyfriend was lieing about my age and told him I was not gonna be telling his dad my actual age but he needed to, soon. I was not comfortable lieing to his dad as I do not lie and dont believe in lieing to those closet to us especially. So my boyfriend came clean nearly two months later (😐🙄) and his dad blamed me for having his son lie because his son is just a prefect saint and would never do anything wrong in his eyes

Fast forward and a few weeks and I found out my boyfriend has been lieing about saving money for our apartment, quitting smoking weed and cigarettes, quitting going out and so much more I don’t wanna get into. But because of everything we can’t afford an apartment and I asked him to get a second job to make up for this (he hasn’t gotten one despite me asking for a month)

We are in the process of finding an apartment and have decided he pays the full rent, would be on child support so We can get daycare assitance and that money would go back to him and I pay utilities, for our son, food and daycare. I think this is fair for us personally and a lot of thought went into making this plan.

I worked two jobs up until Friday now I just work one 6 days a week, go to the school during the day and I’ve paid for EVERYTHING for my son. My boyfriend hasn’t bought one god damn thing and I don’t allow him to buy me anything for me. This is now where the story begins.

So we go to my boyfriends dads house today to talk about my baby shower and find out who they would like there and the second I walk In he’s giving me the stink eye and acting ugly towards me but I didn’t care. Me and my boyfriend sit down and his dad is Intaragating me about my family, friends, life and just everything. Than he asks about an apartment and how it’s going and I told him I had a few meetings setup (I’m the only one who’s set apartment meetings up, my boyfriend hasn’t) and the last two we looked at didn’t have anything but one bedrooms so we couldn’t go to them. He asked how bills would be split and I told him our plan and he starts SCREAMING at me about how I’m “using his son for money” and “expecting way to much” and how I can “get off my ass and actually work” completely out of no where. I said “I just quit my second job because it’s to hard on my body to be doing school and have two jobs that require me to be on my feet my whole shift this far along in my pregnancy and I’ve saved every penny I’ve made. He hasn’t. He can do this one thing I’m asking” and his dad goes “you laid down and made a baby why should he have to change his whole life for you” LIKE WHAT? ARE YOU ON CRACK? ITS HIS KID WE BOTH LAID DOWN AND MADE THIS BABY SO WE BOTH HAVE RESPONSIBILITIES NOT ME. I was so done at that point I threw on my coat and left. My boyfriend didn’t stick up for me at all and later said he was sorry how his dad acted and he knew none of it was true but I’m absolutely pissed. I said he’s not around my son because if he’s gonna make me out to be a awful person who’s so uncaring about everyone else I’m gonna act like that.

I’m honestly so fucking mad rn I’ve been shaking with anger. I’ve changed my whole life for my son and his family thinks there above that. Unbelievable.