Reminder Post - edited

I've noticed as of lately that other moms are starting to be vocal on what we should do when it comes to hospital visits and rules surrounding baby's arrival.

I want to remind people that pregnancy, birth, and life in general is a very different experience for every single person on this earth.

**** What works for one will not work for another. ****

What we need is be supported in whatever makes our birth experience comfortable. Sorry, but that experience is ours and no one elses- not grandmas, not aunties, not even dads. Unless they are the one pushing 6+ pounds of human out, they don't get the say...and that's okay! Don't feel guilty about that. We are our child's only advocate and so if having rules makes you feel at ease with the transition into motherhood, have the rules for the first couple of days.

No we cannot protect them like this their entire lives, but the first couple days, especially as a ftm, are straining. You have every right to have instincts to protect and want space.

Please don't let anyone make you feel bad about it- not family and definitely not the mom's on here! I think a little love, understanding, and support goes a long way.

And just to clarify, because apparently this is somehow being misunderstood, if you want the entire hospital in the room and no rules- thats A-OK too. Do what's best for you. This post is meant to support all ladies and their decisions.