Y’all my parents are driving a wedge between me and them and my husband and I. My parents mean well but the problem is how they go about things. I graduated high school at 16 and started college two months later at a newly 17 year old. I busted my ass for 4 years, I worked 50+ hours a week and I was taking max credit hours a semester. There was sooooo much pressure on me to the point I was starting to fail. I was over worked and exhausted. I crammed my school days in to two days a week, the remaining 5 days I was working from 7am till as late as midnight. I had no social life, no interactions with friends and guys. Then I met my now husband, that year I decided to take a semester off to actuall enjoy life... well that was a big deal to my parents they assumed I dropped out cause of him, when in reality I was at my breaking point regardless. We got married and I moved a state away,, to where he works(military). It was great, however my parents, and siblings, have never shown my husband real kindness that they show my other BILs. It’s always been snarky comments, eye rolls, telling my husband what to do with his life, or just straight up ignoring my husband. It’s gotten to the point that my husband HATES being around my family and fairly unhappy the entire time we go visit cause of how they treat him. Over the past year my husband started getting anxiety and anger issues(never physical or verbal towards anyone) so he actively goes to counseling weekly to better himself and learn how to cope with his feelings. EVERYTIME I talk to my mom it’s “is he still going to counseling” “he did this” or “he did that”, tattling on him to make him out to be this horrible violent person that he’s not. Mind you I know what he did but my family antagonizes him so much to the point he snaps. He tries to take himSelf out of the situation as fast as possible but they keep on him. Now on top of that he’s not sure if his re-enlistment package is going to get approved, so we are trying to figure everything out...damn if my parents aren’t trying to control that and belittle both of us. I get told I need to go to school and get a job, I’m told he can’t get out and needs to go reserves at a minimum, that he’s not gonna be able to go or afford to go to college. Likes it’s all soooo negative and I feel like I’m back at where I was when I was in school and working to the point of exhaustion. I love my family dearly but I’m seriously at the point of cutting off contact for awhile.