Did you go through a VERY rocky patch with your SO? If so, did it get better?

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I would love to hear positive stories about “things getting better” my husband and I have been arguing so much lately over dumb stuff, he has an anger issue that he denies.. I don’t know what to think or do. I love him, and I know he loves me .. things have been so bad lately between us.😭

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I've been married for almost 18 years, I married my SO when I was 18 years old he was 23... he had just lost his mother, cousin and was dealing with being betrayed by his ex wife just before he lost his mom. He had anger issues to say the least and just really bad at dealing with that much grief and loss. We went through a really rough patch at 4 years, then again at 7. I'm not perfect and know I played a part in some of our issues. Honestly now, we just talk it out and deal with our issues as they come.  Now we don't even argue. Everyone goes through rough patches, it's how you deal with them when they come that matters. I know it seems bad, but when you look back you'll see that there is always gonna be times like that. Life isn't perfect.

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My boyfriend and I have been together for almost four years. We hit a really rough patch a few months back. We even ended up breaking up. During the breakup, we communicated about what our issues were. We’d gone so distant that neither of us had feelings for the other anymore. So we spent about a month and a half broken up and talking through everything and building our connection back. We’ve been back together for about 3 months now and we’re happier than we’ve ever been. 
Relationships are hard work. If you’ve been together for a long time, you’re going to hit rough patches. It’s just up to the two of you to decide if it’s worth fixing or not. 
If you are going to work on it, make sure you’re BOTH putting in the same amount of effort. It’ll never work if one of you is trying and the other one is slacking. 
I wish you guys the best!

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We have been together for about 7 years... we had a really rough patch last year. In fact all of 2018 was pretty hard. About this time last year was when things were at their worst.... he was a mess and I was debating actually leaving him or kicking him out, but I couldn’t because I’m not one to waffle back and forth. If I ended it, it would be permanent and that’s not what was in my heart. We also have two kids and I’m all about keeping things consistent and stable for them. But anyhow he’s an alcoholic and he had been trying to get himself sober for months and was making us all crazy with his behavior. He had been looking into detox programs and treatment facilities but he was too scared to make the leap. Finally with a bit of digging and planning/waiting for the right moment I made it so he had to do something; get help or leave. He went to detox and then rehab for 3 1/2 weeks and then sober living. Now he is almost 1 year sober and things are so much better. He is able to be honest with himself and others. I’m so relieved because I’m not constantly “managing” him. I could go on forever about how much things have changed. It’s amazing to have the real him back and to both be mentally in a place to work on life together. There’s also a lot that we need to work on in our relationship, a lot of damage he has caused. But the love is 100% there and we both just don’t give up.

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My fiancé and I had a pretty tough time about a year ago. His health had declined and he was pretty angry/depressed as a result. I think it was important on my part to communicate with him my experience through it. I was very firm with him that I would not tolerate being treated like his punching bag. Communication is key in a relationship, and it’s important to set boundaries as well. It’s okay to be upset, angry, etc. with a person or situation, but it’s not okay to treat them like shit. It got better and we are very happy together.

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My bf and I got through a very tough time. We neen arguing a lot and he got so fed up he broke up with me. So when he realized he has to move out we had to sit down and figured things out. And it gave us the chance to sit down and talk. We both listened to each other to understand what wss going on.

Did you go through a VERY rocky patch with your SO? If so, did it get better?

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