i truly didn’t know where else to post this and i feel relatively safe posting on this app so i have some questions for all of you truly strong people out there actually going through a domestic violence situation.

first and foremost i want you to know that i stand behind everyone of you. as a domestic violence survivor myself i am here to support you. that being said i desperately need some advice about my mother.

to give a little background, my mom is severely mentally ill. we don’t know what she has because whenever a therapist has suggested that something may be wrong with her she quits therapy and starts preaching about how she’s fine. i have some theories, i think she might have some sort of histrionic narcissism, maybe bipolar or borderline personality disorder but regardless my mom has to ply either one of two roles, to those outside of her family she likes to play the part of the savior, to her closest family and friends (including me and her two sons) she is always the victim. for everything. her parents abused her, her sister’s and brother abused her, me and my siblings (even as children) abused her, and now she’s preaching about my dad abusing her. i’m here to tell you all she is 1,000% lying. i’m not brainwashed or seeing things through the eyes of a loving daughter when it comes to my dad, my mom is ill. and i need help. as far as legally she’s painting this picture of my dad being an abusive husband for as long as they’ve been together and for my dad this is truly heartbreaking because he would never in a trillion years put his hands on a woman in violence or anger. he has unintentionally hurt her while trying to defend himself after she physically attacked him. in this instance my dad is the victim. psychologically and physically. i don’t know how to help him. i don’t know what i can do for my dad because he is essentially being framed. she’s openly admitted she will lie to police and the court to make sure my dad spends the rest of his life behind bars and even goes as far to tell him that another man will step in to replace him in my you best brother’s life which is just hitting below the belt. i never dealt with my abuser because i was 13 and i went to my mom for help and she told me we wouldn’t be going to the police because it would make me the town whore and paint her in a bad light because i “couldn’t keep my legs closed” so i truly have no idea what to do to help my dad. please any and all advice would be extremely helpful!!!