Sometimes I feel like my husband is upset inside when I don’t get anything done that day (laundry, dishes, etc). Does anybody else feel shame when they don’t get any “wife/mom” duties done?

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I have a 10 month old and 30 weeks pregnant. Not going to lie, I do sleep when he sleeps and it’s hard to get anything done when he’s awake. But I feel so bad and sometimes I do think he thinks I’m just lazy which I’m sure some days it is true. Any body else not get anything done some days??

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It is not always the women’s damn job to the house work. He is a grown ass man, he can do it. Especially since you are very pregnant and have another child.

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I'm nearly 13 weeks and I run daycare and have a 2.5y.o, so I get the playroom cleaned up at nap time and then I crash because the nausea is killing me.
I feel bad but my husband honestly doesn't care so I don't feel Really bad

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I feel the exact same Way! I feel so terrible and lazy :( I’m a sahm with our 15 month old son and pregnant and am sooo tired 😴 I feel terrible that I don’t have the energy to cook or clean most days. He works his butt off all day and comes home to a messy house or no dinner cooked lately and never complains but I know it’s got to bother him. It sure bothers me and makes me so sad and mad at myself 😓🤦‍♀️

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My husband was upset on the outside with me this morning about this very topic. I have a 10, 9, 3, and 2 year old. Now I'm almost 13 weeks with our 5th. I have never experienced morning sickness or any terrible pregnancy related symptoms until this pregnancy. So most days I feel like death and barely eat and still get sick. My husband is an asshole and doesn't understand shit about what it feels to be pregnant or what it takes to make the household work. He makes the money and that's, in his mind, all he needs to do. So today when he said he ran out of boxers I told him, "Do you're own damn laundry and help ME out for a change." He still had clean clothes, but was being picky because he didn't like the ones he had left. We are currently in a mini war about this because he thinks I should just power through like I've done for the last 11 years. Welp I'm tired. My body is tired. My mind is tired. I think men that do feel this way and similar to yours if he's upset about it, should just help out and really see what our bodies and minds are going through. Sorry I vented on your post, but I'm literally going through this so hard right now and I've been crying all morning.

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My daughter is 2.5 and I feel the same and I’m only 21 weeks. I’ve been diagnosed this week with gestational hypertension that didn’t happen with my first until 35 weeks. We made it to 39 with her before inducing. They told me our goal is 37 this time.

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I sometimes feel guilty but my husband understands that I’m growing a baby and need to rest too. On days I feel really bad I try to do at least one thing (like load/unload dishes) and I feel that I at least accomplished something lol

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I try and at least clean the kitchen while I’m making breakfast. And then if I nap I throw a load of laundry in as I go to bed and switch it when I wake up :) just sneaking little things in like that make it seem like you’ve done a lot haha.

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Girl, I feel the same way. Sometimes I just have to push myself to get everything do. I haven't been sleeping very well. I get like maybe 3 hours of sleep and I still push myself to clean...

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This is my life right now. I have a 3 month old and I feel bad that my husband ran out of work shirts yesterday..luckily he can wear what he wants to work bc his family has a business but still I don’t want him ruining good clothes.

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All the time! I have a 2 year old, a 7 month old and I’m 8 weeks pregnant. I hardly do my hair and make up lol I try to get as much done as I can but he understands that not everyday is going to be perfect. He doesn’t normally care as long as the house doesn’t look like a tornado ran through it. If you can try to do a quick light cleaning to make it look like you’ve done stuff all day lol that’s what I do. My husband comes home sometimes and says that the house looks really nice and all I did was put dishes in the dishwasher and picked up my kids toys

Sometimes I feel like my husband is upset inside when I don’t get anything done that day (laundry, dishes, etc). Does anybody else feel shame when they don’t get any “wife/mom” duties done?

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