My Child My decision

So me and my husband recently found out oir 16mth may need her tonsils oit due to stop breathing at night which resorted us into going to see a ENT who then confirmed her tonsils are more adult size then baby size.

I hate the idea of her havibg surgury at her age so ive been exploring different options. One being a lately who comes highly recommened in helping situations like this she is a chiropractor.

My husbands mother acts like she knows all specially when it comes to our daughter she repeatedly says she had 3 kids so she knows what shes talking about. I also had 3 kids and this is my first dealing with this situation as ot is his moms too. She tells me that I have to do what the dr says and tonsils are useless and i need to remove hers right away.

I have not told her about the chiropractor because I dont think I have to and anytime a friend if her asks how my daughter is doing MIL pipes right up and tells them whats going on and that she is definitely going to get them removed.

Its driving me crazy its my choice and why should she tell all her friends my daughters issues. If I dont feel right about removing them I won't unless its a last resort.

Everytime she brings it up I wanna tell her to stfu its my child but husband stops me and tells me to just grin and bare it in the end its our choice.

Ugh I hate feeling like I'm undermined