I’ve been with my boyfriend for the past 2 years and have been having sex since then.

All was good until about six months ago it started to die down some. It went from being approximately 2-3 times a week to being once a week, once every two weeks and so on.

It has been well over a month since anything at all. He won’t even kiss me for lengthy periods, 1-2 minutes tops before he looks back at his phone and shrugs me away.

I have tried EVERYTHING to try to get him to have sex. Tried making out, lightly grinding and grabbing, dirty talk, neck kissing, ear nibbles. I even spent close to $100 on a lingerie set and have gotten nothing in return other than for him to grab my butt and then roll back over to his freaking phone.

We have talked about it and when we do he just sighs and says that I shouldn’t keep track of how often it happens and to just let it happen when it does. He gets upset and tells me to stop.

I’m at such a loss over what to do. We’re both 21 and I shouldn’t have to always take care of myself. It’s starting to wear on me and lower my self esteem.

Have you ever been in a rut and how did you get out?