Future mother-in-law

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Shavaleir

I love my fiance and his family but his mother treats me like I'm the worst person for her son. I mean everything I do she complains about. She lives with us temporarily with her husband and 13 yr old daughter and she lets her daughter get away with so much but my 12 yr old can't even say anything without her yelling at my daughter. I have made dinner every night and today I wasn't feeling good. She complained about having to make dinner tonight. She does nothing but drink all day. She doesn't clean her dishes. She hardly washes clothes and they leave my house a disaster. When I try talking to my fiance about it he gets tired of hearing it so I don't anymore. I don't have much family and hardly any friends. So I need someone to vent to.

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Well you’ve been nice and tried expressing your concern to your husband. Next you’ll just have to confront her as nicely as possible. She is totally disrespecting your house. If she can’t live by the rules she’s gotta go.

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I’m gonna be plain about my opinion, and keep in mind I am not married nor do I have to deal with a situation such as yours...You need to decide what is important to you here, is it that you just need to get some of you concerns off your chest or do you need advice and opinions on how to go about changing a situation that’s causing you stress?You have to understand that your mental well-being is important and you have an obligation to protect your child if the rest of the family may be/are affecting her mental wellness in her home. She has no where to go either, so please be mindful of how she has to “just deal” with their behavior but has no say in anything, unlike you do as an adult.Moreover, you do have the right to kindly sit your husband down and explain that you want to have a peaceful household and that it is up to everyone to participate in keeping it that way. If he has to talk to his/y’all family about either keeping their woes to themselves them so be it. He doesn’t get to say he doesn’t wanna hear your problems bc he spends his energy entertaining his mom and sister, you’re his partner and if y’all aren’t taking care to strengthen your partnership and family then how long do you think y’all can keep it healthy enough to stay as it is anyway?

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Shavaleir • Feb 19, 2019
I just needed to vent for a bit. I know that right now they dont have anywhere to go either so weve all just been trying to keep the peace. I know that its already affecting mine and my daughters well being. My fiance isnt here a lot to see how she treats me but with his new schedule he will be. I'm really trying not to voice ny opinion because i will not be so gentle toward her feelings. There is alot i dont say because i have no place to but where i do need to step in i do.

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Thathealth • Feb 19, 2019
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Kick their asses out!

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Yesterday his sister was being awesome towards my daughter and my daughter had walked outside and I heard his sister tell my fiance that she didn't like how much my daughter got away with and was talking shit and when my daughter came back in she was back to being buddy buddy again. Like how can you be that way when you do worse?

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Maddie • Feb 22, 2019
You have to GET HIM UP for work? Excuse me but you don’t seem to be his fiancée/partner, you sound more like a maid/nanny. It’s time to stand up for yourself and stop taking this crap otherwise they will continue to walk all over you.

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Shavaleir • Feb 19, 2019
I can't even have sex in my own house. I can't sleep during the day without her coming in and saying you need to get up. And I don't sleep at night because I have to clean their messes and get his laundry done for work and by that time its time to get him up for work then get my daughter off to school.