the sex talk

so me and this guy have been talking for a while now. i really like him and he really likes me. we hang out all the time. i’ve given him blowjobs and he’s fingered me twice but it hurt and didn’t last long since ive never done it before. we are both virgins and I don’t plan on having sex anytime soon. we aren’t dating and i don’t want to wait until marriage but I don’t want it to be a cheap hookup either. I want it to mean something and be with someone special that I love. and we just aren’t at that point. my friend thinks I should talk to him about sex and tell him that I want to wait a little bit. but we aren’t even dating and I feel like it’s unnecessary. I’m sure he would want to have sex but I also think he will respect me and want to wait to. should I talk to him about it or wait?