Sorry for the long story! Please help!!

I’m 24 going on 25.

I’ve been with this man since i was 16. We are going to 9 years in August. He has been verbally and physically abusive to me. I decided i had enough and moved out to my own place. He wanted to try to work things out regardless of us living in separate houses. I gave him another chance. His sister lived with us because she couldn’t afford to live on her own and me and her never seen eye to eye because she was lazy and i did all the cleaning up after both of them so him being verbally and physically abusive plus her on top I couldn’t deal with it anymore i left! Now he gets mad when I don’t want to stay over his house but honestly it just doesn’t feel like my home anymore. I have stayed over before but he wants me to stay over like everyday and i feel like he tries to still manipulate me and i hate the feeling. I was at my brothers house spending time with my family who was also visiting him. And He texts me he’s hungry. I told him that if i left soon I could bring him something to eat but that i was spending time with my family. He got so mad said “oh apparently thats more I’m then bringing me food” i ignored him. Then he said come sleep over then. I said um well i slept over yesterday i kinda want to go home but i caved in and said i would go home pack a bag and head to his house. Once i left my brothers house it was snowing pretty bad and roads where slippery and decided to just stay home. He then told me that he was done with the bullshit that i have stupid excuses and I finally just said okay! I’m also done!!

We where trying to have children for about 3 years and nothing has happened not even a scare. I always think that god has something better for me and he’s been trying to remove him from my life years ago. We fell out of love for each other a long time ago I believe the only reason why we are still something is because we are comfortable 😔 should i just let it be? And just move on with my life? Should i just try to work things out.. every time I’m home alone i always want to text him.. my friend tells me it’s because I’m bored. What do you ladies think? Please help me 😔 i fell like I deserve better but i feel so lonely.

Update!! These are a few messages of how he talks to me.