Am I creating a monster as my fiancé says

My daughter is due in 6 weeks and I think my son can sense it and needs mama constantly.

He is two now and has been an amazing sleeper since 3 weeks old, we give him milk before bed, put him in his room all lights off with sound machine and he’s out from 8pm-8am.

But recently he got SO clingy to me, so I started cuddling him in my bed letting him fall asleep on me still by 8pm and then I put him in his bedroom and he’s still out for the night. My fiancé said I’m creating a monster by doing that but if he’s still falling asleep and sleeping through the night in his bed what the issue with mommy cuddles to fall asleep?

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El

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He definitely needs extra love, but be careful about creating new habits. I wouldn’t let him fall asleep with you. Set aside some cuddle time but then put him to bed like normal.

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El • Feb 21, 2019
That’s a good compromise.

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Destinee • Feb 21, 2019
Tonight we had me lay with him in his bed around 7:45 and by 8:04 he was out cold so I think if I’m gonna cuddle him it’ll be in his bed instead so he still stays used to sleeping in his bed

Le

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Maybe cuddle him in his own bed?

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Destinee • Feb 21, 2019
That’s what we did tonight, he was asleep in 15 minutes so I’m thinking we will continue it this way

La

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I personally don’t see any harm in it at all. It’s going to be a difficult transition when the new baby comes regardless, why deny your son these cuddles in your bed? He’s going to have to share so much of you already. I think it’s lovely and not a “bad habit”.

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Destinee • Feb 22, 2019
Thank you!! I couldn’t agree more.

Sh

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I agree with your fiance. If your not going to be able to do that when the baby comes don’t do it now. Nothing wrong with giving him extra cuddles throughout the day

Sh

Shiona • Feb 21, 2019
Makes sense

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Destinee • Feb 21, 2019
I’ll be able to take 15 minutes of my time each night to do it still once baby comes it’s just the fact that he falls asleep in my bed my fiancé didn’t like, he doesn’t stay In my bed just crawls in cuddles and falls asleep then we carry him to his bed, I just don’t see any harm to it but tonight I laid with him in his bed and he still was okay with me giving him cuddles there instead of my bed so we are going to do it that way (:

m

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I’m also pregnant and my son is also 2 and oh boy has he been clingy!! Just enjoy the cuddles and understand that this is a confusing time for them. I always remind myself my son has only been alive all of two years and it’s my job to be his comfort and support to navigate big feelings and process new emotions. All will be well. My son went through this sleep phase too and is now back in his own space. We actually bought him new blankets and he was so excited about that I swear it was the turning point haha

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Destinee • Feb 21, 2019
Thank you I needed this💕💕💕

Je

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That’s definitely not a habit you want to start. If he needs to cuddle do it in his bed, especially if baby will be sleeping in your room for a while.

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Destinee • Feb 21, 2019
Yeah we tried his bed tonight and that was good for him so I think we’re gonna continue that way I laid with him from 7:45-8:04 and he was out cold