To the point where I told him I’m not coming over unless he cleans up, which then he started keeping it decent. Fwd to 2 years later when we got married and moved in, he would clean but not well.... like not taking out the trash (I could barely do it because I have severe carpal tunnel). But the main thing is he loves to cook and would have stuff splattered all over the stove and floor. I just don’t understand how someone can be that messy when I cook I clean at the same time... then when he’s done he leaves the pot on the stove with food in it, unraked dishes in the sink and counters.... we even got charged to fixed the dishwasher at our old apartment how he would just throw plates of food in there to get me to shut up and the food jammed the dishwasher! I finally got tired of cleaning after him and we ended up having gnats really bad and I explained it’s because you leave food on the stove, counter, and sink! Then He ends up having to go for training for two months for a new job and long behold I get rid of the gnats. We had to move because of his new job..we’ve been here 3 weeks and already he starting the same trend... this morning I raked and washed dishes and then just now I get up to pee and go to get a drink and there is all this food in the sink as well as a bowl full of food on the counter! 😡😡we have a baby on the way I don’t want gnats or roaches! But I’m tired of bitching.... I’m cleaning up now but I’m sure once the baby comes I won’t have the energy I barely have it now! Sorry for the long post....side note/question I’m a stay at home wife should I just stop bitching and clean it? But I literally tell him 3 things stop leaving dirty clothes everywhere, rake and rinse your pots, dishes, and the sink out, and take out the trash!!!! That’s it!