Small rant time :) excuse my pettiness

So basically all of my family besides my mom, dad, grandma, and grandmas 3 siblings don’t support my pregnancy or have completely cut me out of their lives, because I’m 17 and pregnant.

Their loss, whatever. But what agitates me to no end- is that someone else in that family is pregnant and JUST because she’s married and older, her kid will be loved. Her kid will be showered, her kid will get gifts on holidays and told “i love you” and “i miss you”. My little boy however, won’t be getting those kind words or gifts. He won’t be growing up with his cousins. He won’t know what it’s like to have a loving supportive non-immediate family. He won’t know what it’s like to feel like family has your back ALL BECAUSE I’m a teen mom and it’s “taboo”. How can you even treat a child like that. How can you decide which child is “worthy” based on how they will be raised?!

If you don’t want to be nice to me, fine. But don’t take that out on my kid because you disapprove of something I did. Every kid in the world deserves to feel loved and needed.

My boyfriend and I will not be receiving any help except from my mom this pregnancy, It’s going to be horrible financially, and to know that since I’m 17 it’s “unacceptable” for anyone to come to a baby shower of mine is ridiculous. Why can’t I be allowed to be happy? Why can’t I openly talk about my pregnancy to people without them judging me or wishing me luck because “it’s going to be hell”. Yes this baby wasn’t planned and I never expected to have kids at 17 but I am EXCITED. I am HOPEFUL. And I will not treat this baby or pregnancy like it’s something I need to be scared of. I might not be able to make my family love my baby or support me, and that honestly sucks- but I will make my baby feel loved and appreciated BY ME. Why is being a teen mom such a “horrible” thing? What makes me any less of a mom? I will still be birthing my child, taking care of my child, feeding my child, loving my child, I will still be just as stressed. I will still need to finish my education, go to college, find a proper job- all while supporting a baby. I still will have hardships. I still will break down like any other mom. I won’t abandon my kid like everyone thinks, and my kid won’t grow up to be a nonfunctional society member because of my age. Yes, we might struggle money wise right now until i get my foot hold. But my kid will always come first, just like any mom in their 20’s, 30’s, 40’s and above.