I’m currently going through a divorce due to a physically abusive spouse, and I’m ~9 weeks pregnant. I had my first ultrasound last week and was absolutely delighted to see my new baby.

My mother is out of state, and we have a fairly strained relationship. She and my father divorced when I was young, and she chose to focus on dating instead of helping my brother and I cope with the divorce.

Yesterday I sent her a picture of my ultrasound, and instead of being happy, she proceeded to vent to various family members about how she’s “too young to be a grandmother,” and how “she doesn’t understand why I’m keeping this baby.”

Mind you, I’m employed full-time, make a decent income, and have never asked a single family member of mine for financial help. I suppose she’s just angry I’m having a baby so soon after a divorce, or doesn’t like the fact that she has to label herself as a grandmother now?

I confronted her, and she proceeded to lecture me on how irresponsible it is to get divorced while pregnant (again, I was abused and my ex is now in JAIL for beating me up while pregnant), how abortion is my best option, and how getting a masters degree would be a better financial decision for me than having a baby. I’m ENRAGED.

Sorry I’m just venting. I can’t believe she’d bring up abortion immediately after seeing the ultrasound picture of her grandchild. I’ve also made it clear for years that I’m against abortion. Ugh!! What do I do, ladies? My pregnancy hormones are making me want to smack her.