So I was in a mom group chat and looking for a place to vent. Going on 2 hours of sleep with a sick 2 year old and a sick 1 year old. My husband gets home from work and has the stomach bug. I ask him to go upstairs since that’s where the bathroom is as well as our bedroom. I’m not sure if it’s contagious but I don’t want the kids getting it. They have head colds. So I give him a bucket and tell him to stay up there and I check on him periodically. Well he decides that he doesn’t want to be upstairs by himself sleeping and comes downstairs and refused to use the bucket I got for him. I ask him to go back upstairs as the kids want to be all over him and I don’t want them sick he won’t go. Well my 2 year old has diarrhea and it’s leaked out of his diaper onto the floor so I’m in the middle of cleaning him up while the one year old is digging through the trash eating garbage and my husband is just laying there doing nothing. Finally he has the urge to throw up. You think he would grab the bucket I got for him he didn’t want to use? Nope instead he deliberately doesn’t take the bucket because I suggested it and ends up puking all over the stairs. Now I’m pissed because even if he couldn’t make it to th bathroom he could’ve thrown up in the bucket. So I said I wouldn’t clean it up. I got the rags and a bucket full of soapy water and gave it to him to clean up while I finished cleaning up my son and then my daughters mess. I was at my wits end with no sleep being 32 weeks pregnant and stressed to the max with the two kids and looking for a shoulder to basically cry on. So I went to this mom group to post my problems. All the moms attacked me and said what a horrible wife I was because I wouldn’t clean up the puke because he REFUSED to use the bucket I went out of my way to get for him because I was busy attending to my sick children. How does that make me a bitch because my adult husband refused to use a bucket just out of spite because I suggested it? I feel like I was in the right. If he had thrown up under different circumstances like he didn’t have a bucket nearby or couldn’t make it to the bathroom I would’ve been ok with it. But the fact he wouldn’t use the bucket I got for him and then expect me to clean up his mess as I’m cleaning up poop from the carpet? Am I wrong?

UPDATE

Thank you everyone. I really needed this. All day I’ve felt like shit after being called all sorts of names. I spent half the day crying but you all have made me feel so much better.