Grieving husband advice! Help!

My husbands grandmother just passed away. She was his last living grandparent.

The funeral is 9 hours away and too short of notice for us to be able to attend.

He was not very close to her, but he’s not taking it well...

He won’t share his feelings with me. He cried a little tonight when I gave him a hug and kiss goodnight. Later I could hear him crying in the bathroom.

I asked if he wanted to talk or just to be together and he said he wanted to be alone, and went to sleep in the spare bedroom.

I can hear him crying now...

I know that everyone grieves differently, but I want to be able to support and be there for him. I just don’t know how...

He’s a big fan of covering up sad feelings with humour and pushing feelings down...

Any advice?

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J

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Remind him that you’re there for him and will listen to whatever he wants to tell you then give him his space. Maybe he can’t really process it. Being distant family makes it difficult when they pass bc you regret not being closer and guilt yourself.

As

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He should go to the funeral even if he has to go alone due to time constraints. Let him grieve, and give him space.

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Ugh, men! This sounds so familiar.The best advice I can give is to remind him, that you are there for him. Hug hi, kiss him, leave him alone a little if need be.And I tend to annoy the shit out of my boyfriend by sometimes reminding him, that I can see and hear and feel he isn't okay so it would honestly be nice for him to talk to me about it. Because I know he would want me to tell him, if I acted the same way.

Ma

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When I first got togerher with my husband he had known so much loss and people in his family seemed to be dropping too quickly for me. Id never really dealt with greif or dealth so Idk what your husband really needs. If he's a big fan of bottling and unhealthily ignoring painful emotions (much like myself) with much fun one like humor I dont think the best way to approach it is forcing him to deal with them, but i dont think a grandparent passing should ever warrant a trip to the guest room. I would distract my husband with his favorite lingerie and position and just hold him really close after. But he's not hiding from me in another room. Id draw the line there.