I need some help or advice. I’ve lived a very stressful past few years. My husband and I have been together for almost 10 years, but married for almost 2 years. We started trying right after the wedding and have struggled with infertility and miscarriages during that time. We got into an argument this morning because last night he fell asleep on the couch and wouldn’t wake up to have sex. I know sounds ridiculous, to fight over sleeping on the couch and not having sex. But we’ve been trying for a long time, and this is my first cycle of potentially 3 cycles on Clomid. And my doctor told me to do it his way, which came with days to take the pills and days to have sex. Well we failed miserably at the sex part, and have been failing at it for a while. Going on 2 years of scheduling sex, and rarely doing it for fun has really put a damper in sex. My husband is all about sex when it’s not related to baby making, but whenever it’s related to baby making it’s like pulling teeth. And I’m the complete opposite. I could have sex everyday when it comes to sex that may lead to a pregnancy, but uninterested when it’s just for sex. Anyway, our marriage is struggling right now due to our fertility and I don’t know what to do. We both want kids, but I feel like he doesn’t want to put in the work to get there. So I ended up feeling like a total b*tch this morning because I bickered at him for falling asleep early. In his defense we are both stressed about fertility, but he is also a grad student working on his PhD and that only adds more stress for him. My go to for trying to fix things is buying him gifts or doing what I think is nice and thoughtful. We argued last Thursday about probably sex, or something related and then I had to leave for a late meeting. On my way home I passed a chic-a-fila. I heard him earlier in the week talking to his mom or someone about loving their chocolate shakes. So I stopped and got him one. I gave it to him and apologized for our fight. He made this face and said why’d you get this? I tried to explain it and he said I don’t want you to buy me things I want you to understand. I do try to understand and I tell him that, but I just feel like I can’t win. I thought I was doing something really sweet and thoughtful. I’m at a loss and I don’t know what to do. Does anyone have any tips or advice?