So I went with my fiancé to get our taxes done and the lady that does it is like a mother to him. She looks at me and jumps and screams omg you really need to lose that weight. She asks me was I sad or lazy I replied that I just was happy and stopped working out. I told him the day before going that I didn’t want to go because I knew that would happen and that she would voice how she felt about my weight. He got upset and I gave in. None of this hurts me, what hurts me is that she is 1000000 percent right. When I met him and her I was I so athletic. He’s a bit possessive and literally scared of me leaving the house without him. So this will be a huge test I feel for me and him. Every now and then he offers to eat crappy food or when I get focused and want to go to sleep early (to avoid eating late)he gets annoyed and say I’m mean. It is up to me to stay on my healthy journey... but what if I resent him for even trying to sway me to quit working out and eating right? We literally got into an argument yesterday over carb free noodles and I snapped. I yelled and told him you don’t want me to leave the house but you don’t want to take me to workout after work nor do you want to get things from the grocery store so I can eat healthy. What I said and how I said it was tactless. I know I will lose the weight but I feel like he’s going to tighten his grip on me even more. He says you still get looks from guys at your size so who are you doing this for? ...I get super sad because I sometimes feel like I will have to end this soon.. I want to grow with my partner not just be complacent and waste away. I’ve voiced this to him and he always say well I haven’t stopped loving because of your size and I get that but this is for me. It frustrates me because he’s 52 I’m 29 I feel like he’s okay with how things are in general which angers me because I still want to expand and achieve and reach new heights. His im content with the bare minimum attitude is unattractive to me now. Not just with our physical bodies but with starting a new business or buying a house AND ME WORKING so we can have more income. He talks about marriage but I hesitate because I’m not ready to stop living life without progression.

I don’t know what I want from you all on here, am I a shitty person?

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Significant difference smh