Feeling guilty.

A few weeks ago, my best friend and I found out that we’re having babies two weeks apart. We were so, so excited and had been texting each other daily about our symptoms, what we were excited for, etc. She also lives one block away from me, so we were happy that they would each have a friend close by.

Two days ago, she told me she had miscarried. She is (of course) devastated. They had already found a day care, changed insurance, bought things for the nursery. If anybody deserves to be parents, it’s them.

So now I’m here, feeling this weird sense of guilt that I’m pregnant and she’s not. I know that I will need to be sensitive about talking about pregnancy around her, and I can’t help but feel like my baby will always be a reminder of the one she didn’t have.

I want to be excited about my baby and this pregnancy, but I just feel a lot of sadness right now. How can I console her? I’m afraid she isn’t going to want to be around me because I’ll remind her of this hard time. Should I give her space? What would you do?