Job problems/first time mom

Tips on how to leave a job professionally when the job and supervisor is very toxic? Just for a reference, here are some things my supervisor has said to me since I have worked for her. Mind you, I don’t really talk to her about anything other than work at all. She’s very unprofessional, emotionally driven, however she will never be gotten rid of, because of how long she’s worked for the owners.

When another co worker guessed I was pregnant and she overheard and she yelled, and I mean yelled to everyone at my job, “I told you guys once she got married she’d turn into a slut who can’t keep her fucking legs closed”. (She then laughed and said it was just a joke but I didn’t find it very funny)

After my pregnancy was known, she keeps announcing to anyone in hearing distance, “are you going to tell your baby that you were a slut and couldn’t keep your legs closed at the Christmas party and that is how he was made” (I was pregnant before the Christmas party, and didn’t even sleep with my husband that weekend.

The other day when everyone was talking about their kids (except me as my son isn’t born yet) she opened her mouth and said, “let’s all prepare ourselves for when (my name) has her baby and all she does is complain how hard is is to be a mother and how she can’t handle it”.

Then one day I was having a really bad day (didn’t say two words to her besides good morning and didn’t let it affect my job) she stated, “you look like shit, were you up all night letting your husband fuck you from behind” (which I found very inappropriate and not true, and also hurt my feelings as I was up all night because I had a family member in ICU because they tried to take their life) which I stated as I was very upset at her comment and she proceeded to say, “well I don’t feel bad for you, only cowards take their lives and you being sad isn’t going to keep them alive”.

These are just a few examples of things I’ve been told, and the stress and tears everyday aren’t worth harming my pregnancy. The verbal abuse is also I’m struggling with how to leave this job. I plan on leaving at the end of April, I just don’t know how to say I will be leaving without being verbally attacked. My job doesn’t have an HR representative, it’s a very small business as well.

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You just give your two weeks via a letter. Or if you don’t mind not having them on your resume, just quit. Tbh you should be reporting her to HR for being so inappropriate.

Co

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Just leave! You have no obligation to be the bigger person here. She’s absolutely horrifying. Tell her off, tell everyone off, and gtfo of that nightmare.

De

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I would put in my notice the day of quitting to the owners with a letter describing her disgusting behavior & comments and leave without even speaking with that woman. What a disgusting human being. I'm so sorry you have to deal with that. I'd also have a huge calendar at my house with a countdown to the day I quit and cross off each day with a huge smile on my face. You ARE NOT required to leave a job like that being perfect. I would absolutely tell the owners who they have working for them, and if they already know about it, shame on them too!!!!!!

Ch

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Record it & send it to someone higher up. I wouldn't tolerate that shit

Br

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She sounds absolutely awful! I can’t believe all of the horrible things she has said! You really don’t have to say anything. Just hand in your letter of resignation. Is there someone else you can hand it in to? The owners? Honestly, if it were me, I Kant try explaining to the owners the toxic work environment she is creating, I would want to know if it was my business on the line. Maybe write them an email right before you leave? You’re not under any obligation to do that though. I’m sorry you’re facing this.
She sounds absolutely awful! I can’t believe all of the horrible things she has said! You really don’t have to say anything. Just hand in your letter of resignation. Is there someone else you can hand it in to? The owners? Honestly, if it were me, I Kant try explaining to the owners the toxic work environment she is creating, I would want to know if it was my business on the line. Maybe write them an email right before you leave? You’re not under any obligation to do that though. I’m sorry you’re facing this.

Ma

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Just give your notice that you’re going on mat leave and then on your last day of work hand in your “two weeks notice”. Or just quit, honestly, and if you get asked about why you left or why you didn’t give a full two weeks notice in a future interview then you can just explain that it was a verbally abusive work environment without a Human Resources department and you didn’t feel safe continuing to go to work.

A

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Holy shit she’s awful

Xo

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Record her and contact a lawyer. That is beyond inappropriate!