Have we failed her...?

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Hello, beautiful mothers and mothers to be. I am posting, because I am so discouraged. My husband and I are young, 21 year old college students, with our first child due in July. We are having a little girl who we are both IN LOVE with. And naturally we want to be able to give her everything in the world, the moon even if we could... but we can't... and it breaks our hearts. 
My husband and I were both raised by older parents. So, our parents were very established by the time we came into their lives. 
But here we are... different. 
We rent a tiny house near our campus. It's one bedroom and one bathroom with the living room and kitchen open to one another with our washer and dryer crammed into the center of it. 
It has worked for the two of us just fine... but since we found out we were expecting, we've been hopeful we could move. But there's truly nothing out there... the college town is tiny and everything is taken. Nothing available. How can we make our little one feel at home with us, when we hardly have room for her there... 
We are panicked.Upset. Overwhelmed. And quite frankly, feeling like complete failures. We don't want to let our daughter down... we know she won't remember the earliest stages of her life. My memories pick up from around the age 2 1/2 or 3... but still... we want the best for her...
I don't even know why I'm posting on here. I guess I just needed to talk to someone.

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She does not need a lot of space. It will be ok 😊 I know lots of people living i two-room apartments with a child.

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You haven’t failed her at all you are still going to give her the best childhood and she will be loved and that’s what matters

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She doesnt need lots of stuff or a huge house to be happy. You will simply have an easier time teaching her that than you might have otherwise.

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I completely understand your desire for the best for your daughter. But it sounds like she already has that. Two parents who love her and are concerned about providing the best for her. That is what kids need. Sounds like you guys will have a house full of love.

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Youll be fine! My parents were like poor growing up. There were 3 of us girls and as the middle i always had to share a room. 1 bathroom 😱. We all grew up happy and healthy and are like bff’s w eachother and our parents

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She doesn’t need a lot. I was 21 and my husband was 19 when we found out we were expecting our daughter. He was in college full time and I had to drop out to work and help support us so he could support our future. Here we are years later, he is getting ready to graduate with his doctorate. We own a house and cars, we have everything we need. And we are now expecting our second. We started from the bottom, and the ride has been amazing. No kids ever come at the exact or “right” time. You just make it work.

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Or little one shared a room with us for almost a year. Technically it's a recommendation for SIDS so you have the perfect place. Love that little baby and that's all you need.

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At least you guys have your own place. I'm 21 living in my dads house with my husband and 1.5 year old. Its awful. I wish we could have our own space

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No one has the “ideal” set up, I was 20 and a sophomore in college when I was raped and became  pregnant. I had to drop my career (which I was already 3 years into and it was GOOD money and I was well established) and move across the country to be closer to family and away from my sons dad, we live in a tiny two story apartment still because California living costs are outrageous and he is the HAPPIEST little guy, has always had everything he needs and then some. They don’t care where they are, but the love they receive is what they will remember most.

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My fiance and I are expecting any day now and still have a roommate (so feels like we live in a tiny one bedroom a little bit), too many animals, and now that the car seat is in our 2-door Honda, no one can sit in the passenger seat because it has to be up so far. I literally cried about it for 2 days. It's a little different situation and we're a little older, but I definitely am no stranger to feeling like I'm already failing our baby girl and she's not even here yet. 😔 But just remind yourselves, you're doing your best and that's what matters. People have done with even less and their children turned out perfectly fine. And just because you could be in a more ideal situation... guarantee you would probably still find something to feel that way about because it's your first and you'll never be ready for it because you don't actually know what to be ready for. 
You're gonna make it work and everything is going to be fine. Keep your head up and just know that as long as baby is surrounded by plenty of love that is all that matters. Just do your best and everything will be okay. ❤️

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