My husband lied

I am in so much disbelief right now.

My husband lied to me about our tax return.

I'm a sahm so I don't do the taxes, my husband does. Well he told me last week that we should be getting our return by Wednesday and if not then we have to call the bank by today to see where it's at.

So we wait, and it didn't come in which I thought was odd since it typically gets deposited the day after they send it. But we continued to just wait. Yesterday he tells me he has a bad feeling about not receiving them. And I asked why since we shouldn't have any reason not to.

(Last year we didn't receive our taxes because of the Army, and we knew all along. So this time is definitely odd, and we don't owe them anymore.)

So this morning comes, and I asked if it came in considering he would have checked right way. He tells me oh I don't know I didn't look. Red flag, because he always checks the account in the morning. Especially if money is suppose to come in. So of course I'm irritated because wtf, where is it?!! This never happens.

So the whole morning he goes on, not even a care in the world about it. Which is red flag #2. So I keep poking about it. Like where could it have gone?? How do you not know? It should say something. It always says something. But apparently he had no idea. The only thing he all of a sudden thought of was his student loans.

So once he went to work, I took the matters into my own hand and found out we aren't getting the refund. They can't tell us why yet, we will get a letter. But it just blows my mind he would lie to me about this. It's not that important, it's not like we desperately need it. It would just be nice to have for savings since we are trying to buy a house.

I'm just so dumb founded. I mean if he's lying about this, what else is he lying about?? And we talk about EVERYTHING so there shouldn't be a reason to hide this. This is something I should know about too.

I'm so shocked and hurt. Like who hides this?! Lol. I'm not even going to say anything until he does tell me.

ADDED before I get too many of these questions-

I do have access to our account, I just dont check it as often as he does. He normally checks it every morning and tells me if anything big came in or out.

I also do most of all the billing. We are literally on the same page about everything which is why I find this so strange.

He only did the taxes himself because he used turbo tax and did it on his phone. I then just went by what he said since he was getting all the updates about it. And obviously didn't think he would hide something so stupid.