Married, moving and can’t stop fighting.

So my husband and I are literally at each other’s throats this weekend...

We are in the middle of a move. We just got to the new house, moving 7 hours away. Let me also note, he’s the only income and we have four small children that I stay home with. His family (his dad, and brother an sister) has drove up for the weekend to help us move.

And since we got here; it’s been hell.

Seriously, he’s always got a temper and easily agitated. But this is a whole new level.

Our new house didn’t have a washer or dryer so we need to go get one. Instead of taking time to look for a good deal, he rushes out and spends over $1000 on a set at some local place he found.

Fast forward a couple of hours, I go to the grocery store to pick up some little random things that we needed to stock back up on, and happen to grab a rug for our front door (was suppose to be $12 I ended up getting it on sale for $1.50) I come back with it and he literally takes me in the other room and lectures me saying I shouldn’t have bought it because it’s a waste of money and it could of waited and I’m apparently going to want to buy something different later on if I change my mind on decor, so it’s a waste...

Whattt?

Then I come I walk into our bathroom to start getting ready to leave with all of his family and he follows me in there and informs me that he wants a couple of different things done a certain way in our bathroom (laundry basket placement and stuff) and I say ok? He gets mad, I say, well I actually think it should go here. He gets more mad starts going off, I say ok? Why can’t anything be a discussion? Why does it have to be your way or a fight? And that’s just me being ridiculous as usual. I’m trying to get in the shower and he literally won’t leave an let me just shower. I ask him to please just go, his response is, it’s my house, I’ll do what I want, but finally leaves.

Me and his sister were friends before me and him ever got together, we dated in high school and then married right out of high school. So she has been helping me the whole weekend and watching how he’s acting and he is now convinced that I am purposely trying to turn her and the rest of his family on him because they are (literally watching the way he’s acted all weekend) but it’s still apparently my fault.

I literally can’t do or say anything right. His dad volunteered to keep the kids one night while they are here so me, him and his two adult siblings can all go out and do something.

Me and him had already been fighting two days straight at this point. And I had some kind of stomach virus that our oldest had on the way down and passed to me. So I didn’t feel like going out but he throws a fit an basically leaves me no choice but to go unless I want to face another huge blowup.

So keeping in mind that I am already feeling sick, he decided we were all going to go to some giant chuckle cheese type place filled with pizzas and trampolines and go karts. On the way there, he starts playing so horrible crude an vulgar song really loud in the car, and as we are pulling up to the place (full of kids an families) I say, he should probably turn it down because everyone can hear and he turns it up even louder in response.

We walk in and there is a sign that says must have an ID to use credit or debit cards. (My two year old threw my ID and debit card away a few days prior) he looks at me an says, you got some cash right? You guys (me and his sister) do whatever, and we (him and his brother) will do our thing and pays for himself and leaves.

Again I say, I don’t want to do any of these things in fear of throwing up. Every time I say something at this point he either has a snide comment or rude remark, so I just stop talking to him all together. Yes, I started basically giving him the silent treatment.

His sister gets aggravated that they left us because knowing I’m sick, she would have to go by herself to do everything. She texts her brother and asks why they left us, and they start calling and she doesn’t answer. They then come and find us in the middle of the game room and he legit goes off on ME in a room full of people, saying I’m acting “bitchy” and acting like a child and says to “just go play some games since I’m a child” and even his brother (that is typically a huge jerk to everyone) looks at him an says I think that’s enough, your being ridiculous. And he doesn’t care.

So from here I leave the conversation because whether it’s the stomach bug or just the stress and emotions, I literally feel sick to my stomach an go to the bathroom. His sister follows me to make sure I’m ok. A few minutes later, he texts me and says, “well we just got a refund and if your coming, let’s go” and we walk outside. He drive us home, me an his sister get out and they leave again and don’t come back till late that night.

He literally says I just “played the victim” and turned everyone against him. I was asking for it and he was justified to act the way he did.

Now, next day and he has yet to apologize or recognize that he was wrong at all. He keeps justifying it by saying I was being ridiculous and childish. He gets in the shower and calls me in there (while I’m trying to feed all four kids breakfast) and says why don’t you get in the shower with me? I literally look at him in awe, and say definitely not.

He expects me to just get over it.

I’m so hurt and mad and I don’t know what to do. He won’t listen to reason and talking isn’t seeming to help. I’m at a loss.