Losing virginity

To start, I'm 20 and my bf is 22.

I've tried losing my virginity multiple times before. I have tried relaxing, extra foreplay, etc, and my results have all been the same. It hurt like hell. I'm growing frustrated and impatient (which isn't good, I know) but I'm at my wits end.

I was wondering if alcohol would be able to help me calm my nerves and loosen me up a bit? Not absolutely drunk, but enough to get me to relax. I just don't want to feel pain, which is mostly what scares me most after all the other failed attempts. If not alcohol then what would you recommend? I'm willing to do whatever it takes at this point