Should I stay or go?

How did you guys deal with having a toddler and a newborn? My husband and I are going to a new state. I have a 19 month old and baby is due is July. I have two options (I’m a high risk pregnancy with a cervical cerclage). If I go with my husband I won’t have much help except him when he comes home from work. So it will be just me and my 19 month old. If I stay in my current state with my parents I will have help from my family BUT my husband will be away from me and our kids. I have a history of IUGR (this baby not diagnosed with IUGR yet) and preeclampsia. My 19 month old had to be in the NICU for 30 days and it was a C-Section. Idk how I’ll handle the NICU again on my own without my husband. I’m torn between following him and riding it out together (I found a great OBGYN practice that takes high risk pregnancies in our new area), or staying where I am with my amazing team or doctors and my family to help me out (and join my husband a month of two later once I’m healed).