Dirty talk gone too far..?

I’ve been holding this in for like a month now and I just found out there’s an anon/ confession group.. anyway, a month ago when my bf and I were having sex he said “I’m going to put it in your ass and I don’t care if it hurts, I’m going to keep going”.. sorry if it’s too graphic but it’s what he said.. and I just stopped everything and started crying.. we tried anal like 3 times before with different lubes and I just can’t relax enough to make it feel good and he knows that. I was just so hurt and he apologized but like why would he even say that?? We have been together for about a year and a half. He said he didn’t mean it but.. like I felt violated or something.. I’m probably overreacting but it feels good to get this off my chest..