Almost free from Abuse

Hi there. So I really need advice about my ex boyfriend/ baby daddy. I’m so sorry this is so long but I feel like all the details are so important.

My ex and I started working together in June of 2017. We started dating mid March of 2018. I because his boss at the end of March/ beginning of April. We found out we were expecting a child beginning of May.

He told me immediately that once I have the baby that I wouldn’t have to work and he would take care of me and I should move in with him with my dog. Everything was great until I was about 6 months pregnant.

At that point he began showing me beginning signs of emotional and mental abuse. He would always put me down for not having as many friends as him. He would go hang out with his friends around 2 or 3 pm and he gone until 11 pm or midnight. I wasn’t ever allowed to know where he was, who he was with or what he was doing. He would always say it was none of my business. I always had to tell him where I was going and he always had to go with even if it was just to the gas station to get a drink and he wouldn’t even get anything.

Around 7 months pregnant he wasn’t going to pay rent and they were going to evict us that night if he didn’t. I finally talked him into paying it and I even payed half. He never wanted to move closer to where my family was because it was “too rich for him” and he “wouldn’t fit in because he’s hood.”

We started arguing a lot. If I ever expressed my feelings I was wrong. It was too unhealthy for me. I was already a high risk pregnancy because of all the stress. Well he got a new job because he couldn’t stand to work with me anymore and told me now I have to go back to work right away and he wasn’t going to help with my car payment or anything while I was on leave. The only reason he offered for me to be a SAHM in the first place was because he didn’t want me as his boss. He then tells everyone he wanted to move to Parker so I could be closer to my family but I refused and made him stay in his apartment.

He broke up with me the day before Christmas eve (3 days before I was scheduled to be induced.) I had to move all of my stuff out by myself that night. He didn’t help carry anything just sat on the couch and bossed me around. I wasn’t even allowed to have my dog there while I got my stuff because he hated her so much and claims he never said she could move in with us (He offered, he paid a pet deposit at the apartment-complex, he even played with her every night.)

Now that my son is born he was coming to my moms house every M, W, F & S to visit his son. Now he won’t come on the days we have agreed and shows up when he’s not supposed to. Sometimes he won’t even show up because he wants to go out and party and doesn’t let me know because “it’s none of my business now.” There was one time he was supposed to get my son from my mom because I made plans and he never even showed.

He thinks I have no say in our son or how we raise him. He doesn’t have a set schedule with work and can get off anywhere between 4pm - 9pm but told me I need to start to be at his house waiting for him to get home with our son so he can see him. He won’t help me at all financially.

Has anyone else every experienced this? Should I take him to court or just let it go? I’m so conflicted and broken right now it hurts.