Im scared

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So my husband and i are moving to Michigan to be around his family.. which is cool. I dont mind it. Sorta. His family doesnt like me cuz they feel like im using him. See when we first got together he has just graduated basic training ( army) so he family started talkin shit. Then a year later he ask me to marry him and i said yes. His family told him he was ruining his life. After that we got married and didn’t tell anybody. One year we went up there to meet them for Christmas. And my husband took 2 weeks off just for it. And the entire time I was there i felt so left out. His mom honestly didnt make no effort to try to get to know me. After a 4 days of being in Michigan he parents told him he had to leave because of some horrible storm was coming and she didn’t want us to get stuck here.. anyways 2 years went by and my husband got medically discharged from the army. And he told his parents and the first thing they said he watch how fast she leaves u now. And then started talking more shit on how i used him for his money in the army and all this stuff. Im in the car with my husband and im hearing this shit. So i wrote to his mom and asked her whats her issues with me? She never responded. So i let it be. A couple moths go by and we are moving to texas for a job opportunity and his mom yet again says some shit about me and my husband at this point had enough and hangs up and stops talking to them for 6 months. And ever since than they only use to talk once every 5:6 monthz. Now we are moving up there and I scared is gonna be the same bs but the only difference is now i will have my own house/apartment. So i can just go to my place or whatever. My things im a very respectful person until im disrespect. Im very quick to come out my face and stand my ground. When i talk i have no filter. And ofc i have a resting bitch face so people tend not to like me. So last night my husband told me. That im not allowed to stand up for my self unless his family disrespects me 3 times. Like what. Huh. Excuse me. And that i need to put a filter and not be so blunt about stuff. And that i needed to smile more and make friends and not be anti social.. i suffer from depression, anxiety, social anxiety. So i know thats being up there is going to ruin my marriage. And ima fall into a really bad depression. And im scared.