My husband allowed our friends mother to move in with us. Everything was fine at first; everything was “ours” and we shared everything. All of a sudden she’s wanting to separate things; when I took her grocery shopping (she doesn’t have a car, I use all my free time taking her to run her errands) she screamed at me saying that she “couldn’t afford to fund our snacks anymore”. One, she screamed at me in public and I was absolutely humiliated. Secondly, I contributed money (like $120) when we went grocery shopping the last time so she was never paying for our snacks in the first place and I don’t understand why she would think that.

When she had first moved in two months ago, I had asked her for relationship advice. I haven’t talked to her in weeks because she’s been rude to me for weeks and stays in her room whenever I’m at the house. All of a sudden she’s telling my husband that she doesn’t want to hear me bitch about our relationship problems. One, I asked her for advice (several weeks ago, at that), and two, she’s been rude to me for weeks and won’t even come out of her fucking room if I’m home!

The final straw was last night; I came home late because I went out for dinner with some girls from the office. When I walked in the door, they were eating dinner and she stopped talking immediately and wouldn’t address me or look at me.

I told my husband that I shouldn’t have to be worried about who the fuck doesn’t like me in my own house. I shouldn’t be uncomfortable in my own house. I almost feel like her and my husband have cut me out in a way. They spend time together, they talk, pay for each other’s meals and other things. When I got home last night he didn’t get up to hug me, kiss me, or talk to me. He just stayed with her.

It makes me feel like he’s chosen her over me. I tell him how I feel and all he says is that he “doesn’t want the drama” but refuses to stand up for me or talk to her about why she’s been rude to me. He tells me to be nice and civil to her, but he hasn’t told her she needs to be respectful of me.

Our marriage has been suffering badly since she moved in; we spend hardly any time together, we hardly talk anymore, and now I feel like an outsider completely. They spend more time together than we do.

I don’t know what to do anymore. He’s currently angry with me about something and we haven’t talked in days. I’ve lost 25 pounds due to stress and anxiety and I feel like I’m going to combust.