Long distance MIL planning visit 😳

My MIL has only visited us for our wedding in the 5 years DH and I lived together. Now she wants to stay with us with her husband (DH new step dad) for at least a week as soon as we allow her to visit. She said she can understand us wanting to have a few weeks to ourselves. Gee, thanks??

I see this woman for a few hours per year when we visit her for holidays. We always stay in a hotel, and DH choice how often we visit and how long we stay for Christmas dinner, thanksgiving etc. And he’s just shrugging like this is not going to be fucking miserable. We also have a dog that barks CONSTANTLY at new ppl, so I seriously just want to keep baby in my belly for another year or two to not deal with this lol 😬

UPDATE

I put my foot down and asked him to sort it out ASAP. He called her and I didn’t hear the convo but he offered to put her up in a hotel as she’s retired and money could be an issue and he said she sounded really upset, told him she probably won’t visit at all now and also that we should call his aunt who sent us a shower gift. I haven’t had my shower yet and it’s a surprise shower. My mom was actually kind of annoyed they sent the gift to the house as she apparently asked for gifts to be sent to the party address. It was all random stuff too and nothing from our registry. It’s the thought that counts, but her daughter is also pregnant so maybe it was just extra and regifted 😕 Anyway, isn’t it customary to send thank yous all at once after the party? I met his aunt once, so if anyone should call her it should be him and not me 🙄

This is exactly the kind of bs I didn’t want to deal with 24/7 with her and a newborn. Just glad DH backed me up and hope she doesn’t try to manipulate him into it with guilt trips bc clearly that’s her deal.

Day 2 of MIL-gate

DH had lots of attitude for me today about the difficulty I’m causing him and his side of the family bc everyone wants to plan a trip to see the baby at a month old, and half of them want to stay in our house 😬. He’s staying firm though and reached out to MIL via text to get dates to reserve her hotel for her and she just didn’t respond. Seriously woman?!!?!

My nature is to call her to try and resolve this, explain that our house is a bit different from when she saw it FOUR years ago and we no longer have a formal guest room bc I needed an office to work from home full time. I imagine 2 ppl in their 70s can’t spend a week on an air mattress right? Ohh, and I don’t want you here and it’s my fucking house btw. But no, I’m not getting any more involved than I already am. She can stay home for all I care if she wants to play the victim. I have much more important things to focus on 🤰🏻 👶🏻 🍼 🤱🏽

I bet she’d tell me to buy or rent her a queen sized bed for the week 🙄.