With all of the births happening soon, just a reminder:

Make sure you reclarify with friends and family what your expectations are for visitors and guests, especially if your parents are sneaky like mine 😂. My parents are prone to "forgetting" key details so I had to have another talk with them last night.

Warning, long rant ahead:

My visitor plan: I do not want anyone to come to the hospital unless I am dying. No matter how long I am there. I was not even going to tell anyone about the baby being born until we were home and ready for visitors but my husband convinced me I was being too paranoid/mean and we should atleast tell our parents when Im in labor/when the baby is born. Fine- as long as they respect that we don't want visitors until we specifically invite them over. It could be a few hours after we get home, it could be a day or two after we get home, it depends how everything goes and how we are feeling. My husband had no concerns about people following the rules because he is pretty sweet and innocent + did not grow up with my parents

A text message I got from my mom yesterday was a little fishy, so I dug deeper and found out my parents had decided they want to stay at my brother and SILs house when I go into labor and use it as a "home base". So that if I am at the hospital for a few days they are close by to visit the baby at the hospital. They were also hoping to sneak in a quick visit to "surprise me" even if everything goes well. Somehow they "misunderstood" my intentions with that 😑.

Direct quote from my mom : "Just you wait, once you are in pain in labour you will want me there, you'll see! You think you know everything but I know best"

Someone kill me now lol

They also expected that once we were home, they would be there right away and were just going to hang out at our 400 square foot rental house (we moved out to renovate our actual house) for 8 hours a day for a week...... I had to explain it was too small a space and I was going to need to sleep. There is no internet there and nothing for them to do, they would just have to sit and not talk or else they would wake me up. I told them nicely they could stay for 1-2 hour intervals to visit and help for a day or two, so they probably should rent an air bnb or something closeby unless they dont mind driving 1.5 hours to my brothers several times a day. Once we are moved back to the house they can stay for a week but our current place is too small.

I then called my brother and told him about my parents plans, he was like "oh I thought they told you and you were okay with it!". Nope.

So anyways, I hope everyone is able to catch these things ahead of time and good luck with dealing with your own crazy friends and relatives!!